Neurons Firing & Wiring 

Did you know that anything can become a trigger for your brain’s fear response? A smell. A stuffed animal. A song. A picture. Even the most innocent things can become the cue for your brain to prepare your body for survival. When your brain is processing whatever that object or experience is at the same time…

Polyvagal Theory: Understanding the Physical Body in Trauma

This week I wrote another explanation for my coworkers that might be helpful for others. Ever since I went to the National Sexual Assault Conference this past September, I had my attention tuned into this notion of Polyvagal Theory as it relates to trauma. Here is a tiny, 4-minute little video from Dr. Porges (through…

Bystander Intervention Theory

This research project was made public recently. You can see it on the PDF on this site (and then go to the bottom of the PDF and read more). I analyzed this for my coworkers this week and decided to share it with others. I appreciate this work because it integrates several of the leading…

Anger and Chemistry

This article is published on Christian Feminism Today and is a part of what I spoke about on the Talking Taboo Panel. Here’s a teaser and link: “I’ve always loved science—chemistry, neurobiology, astronomy; experiments to test hypotheses; and the constant expansion of scientific fields, bringing new discoveries and innovative perspectives that signal endless possibilities in…

The art of Zentangle: A Tool for Healing

Order Prints of Dr. Christy Sim’s Empowered Series: She Breathes Fire She Discovers Courage      I discovered the art of zentangle as a means to artistically draw our way to healing. It is a fun process and enough friends have asked about it, I collected the best online resources together in one place.  I…

Sexual Violence: Let’s Talk Facts (a guest post by Misty Campbell) 

Instead of hearing from me on the blog, today you get to read the words of my dear friend, Misty Campbell. Misty works as the Volunteer Coordinator for one of our agencies that work with survivors of sexual assault. She’s also my co-presenter this week in a webinar (for Kansas domestic violence & sexual assault…

A Litany for Women Who Suffer on Mother’s Day 

I know Mother’s Day is nothing more than an occasion for many women to feel intense grief. For others, this day might as well be a hashtag for antagonizing loss. And for yet other women, this is not a celebration at all, but instead a reminder of anger. And I want to say… I hear…

Review with Excerpts: Lundy Bancroft’s New Book

Lundy Bancroft‘s new book “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?” (Berkley Books, 2015) is a fantastic new, game-changing, tool for those of us who work with victims of domestic violence.  It is also an amazing resource for survivors to access and use individually. The book is divided into several parts. These include: How to…

Responding to Domestic Violence

My latest article was published on Christian Feminism Today. It took me a month to write, rewrite, and edit. Many friends contributed to the shaping of this final document. Here’s a teaser… “How often do religious leaders choose protecting the ones in power over giving voice to the people accusing these leaders of abuse? Way…

Christian Feminism Today Article, Dr. Christy Sim

In Christian Feminism Today, my article on How to Help a Victim of Violence went live today. “Since graduating with a doctorate focused on domestic violence and healing, the question I am most frequently asked is “How can I help my friend or family member who I know is being hurt?” This is followed by…

Let’s Talk About Items Survivors Might Need

This week I heard someone comment “I don’t think anyone living in a domestic violence shelter will be caring about what they have to wear” and I thought:  It must be time to bring out my list of ideas! Survivors DO care about personal items in the shelter. I know from experience it is humiliating…

Let’s Talk about Thriving

If you would have told me I would write about thriving while I sat sobbing in shock, I would have thought you were crazy. If you came to me in those moments I sat in silence, alone in a tiny chapel trying to make sense of life, to explain to me that I really would…