Annesley Article: Survivors Know Best

Today my article for Annesley Writers went live. This month they are focusing on gender-based violence, including domestic violence.  They asked me to write this piece and I was thrilled to be a part of this project. Here’s a teaser. It was a chilly spring afternoon when I got a call from an unknown number….

What is Wrong with Conditions?

According to an article published by Slate this week, the prosecuting attorney in Honolulu created stipulations for victims of violence to receive services in the local shelter.  As of today, July 15, 2017, the article is available for review here. In this piece it states the following conditions must be met if a person desires…

False Reports of violence & assault are not as common as society believes

In light of several things going on in popular culture these days, I’ve had many requests for information on false allegations and false reporting when it comes to domestic violence and sexual assault. So I put together a research & resource list so folks can investigate for themselves and understand the issue. Bottom line? False…

Dr. Sim’s Resource List for the Neurobiology of Trauma: 

After my presentation at the Crime Victim’s Rights Conference (in a 90 minute session titled “Professionals Playing: Healing & Wholeness in the Midst of Vicarious Trauma”), I was asked for my resource list. A top 10 greatest neurobiology hits, I believe was the exact wording! If I was to create a works cited from all…

Neurons Firing & Wiring 

Did you know that anything can become a trigger for your brain’s fear response? A smell. A stuffed animal. A song. A picture. Even the most innocent things can become the cue for your brain to prepare your body for survival. When your brain is processing whatever that object or experience is at the same time…

Polyvagal Theory: Understanding the Physical Body in Trauma

This week I wrote another explanation for my coworkers that might be helpful for others. Ever since I went to the National Sexual Assault Conference this past September, I had my attention tuned into this notion of Polyvagal Theory as it relates to trauma. Here is a tiny, 4-minute little video from Dr. Porges (through…

Bystander Intervention Theory

This research project was made public recently. You can see it on the PDF on this site (and then go to the bottom of the PDF and read more). I analyzed this for my coworkers this week and decided to share it with others. I appreciate this work because it integrates several of the leading…

Anger and Chemistry

This article is published on Christian Feminism Today and is a part of what I spoke about on the Talking Taboo Panel. Here’s a teaser and link: “I’ve always loved science—chemistry, neurobiology, astronomy; experiments to test hypotheses; and the constant expansion of scientific fields, bringing new discoveries and innovative perspectives that signal endless possibilities in…

The art of Zentangle: A Tool for Healing

Order Prints of Dr. Christy Sim’s Empowered Series: She Breathes Fire She Discovers Courage      I discovered the art of zentangle as a means to artistically draw our way to healing. It is a fun process and enough friends have asked about it, I collected the best online resources together in one place.  I…

Sexual Violence: Let’s Talk Facts (a guest post by Misty Campbell) 

Instead of hearing from me on the blog, today you get to read the words of my dear friend, Misty Campbell. Misty works as the Volunteer Coordinator for one of our agencies that work with survivors of sexual assault. She’s also my co-presenter this week in a webinar (for Kansas domestic violence & sexual assault…

A Litany for Women Who Suffer on Mother’s Day 

I know Mother’s Day is nothing more than an occasion for many women to feel intense grief. For others, this day might as well be a hashtag for antagonizing loss. And for yet other women, this is not a celebration at all, but instead a reminder of anger. And I want to say… I hear…

Review with Excerpts: Lundy Bancroft’s New Book

Lundy Bancroft‘s new book “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?” (Berkley Books, 2015) is a fantastic new, game-changing, tool for those of us who work with victims of domestic violence.  It is also an amazing resource for survivors to access and use individually. The book is divided into several parts. These include: How to…