Annesley Article: Survivors Know Best

Today my article for Annesley Writers went live. This month they are focusing on gender-based violence, including domestic violence.  They asked me to write this piece and I was thrilled to be a part of this project. Here’s a teaser. It was a chilly spring afternoon when I got a call from an unknown number….

What is Wrong with Conditions?

According to an article published by Slate this week, the prosecuting attorney in Honolulu created stipulations for victims of violence to receive services in the local shelter.  As of today, July 15, 2017, the article is available for review here. In this piece it states the following conditions must be met if a person desires…

Hashtag #WhatToSay

 The last hashtag #StuffNotToSay was amazing! It was born from a creative group of friends and survivors were able to find language and images to describe the horrible things they heard when they disclosed their experience of violence. Before I knew it, I could barely keep track of posting all the amazing memes! It was…

Hashtag #StuffNotToSay

This week my friend Amy Hollingsworth (Author of “The Simple Faith of Mister Rogers” and co-author of “Runaway Radical”) posted a status that made me say “Can someone please turn this into a meme for me?” Which she did. With the message “your every wish.” I posted this to my professional Dr. Christy Sim Facebook…

What We Can Learn from the Christianity Today Article with Saeed

This article went live today and I encourage you all to read it. My purpose is two-fold. First, to analyze how Saeed’s answers to the interview questions give us a glimpse into how he might be abusive (and to understand abusers in general). And second, to investigate what happens when a big publication like Christianity…

False Reports of violence & assault are not as common as society believes

In light of several things going on in popular culture these days, I’ve had many requests for information on false allegations and false reporting when it comes to domestic violence and sexual assault. So I put together a research & resource list so folks can investigate for themselves and understand the issue. Bottom line? False…

Bystander Intervention Theory

This research project was made public recently. You can see it on the PDF on this site (and then go to the bottom of the PDF and read more). I analyzed this for my coworkers this week and decided to share it with others. I appreciate this work because it integrates several of the leading…

Anger and Chemistry

This article is published on Christian Feminism Today and is a part of what I spoke about on the Talking Taboo Panel. Here’s a teaser and link: “I’ve always loved science—chemistry, neurobiology, astronomy; experiments to test hypotheses; and the constant expansion of scientific fields, bringing new discoveries and innovative perspectives that signal endless possibilities in…

The art of Zentangle: A Tool for Healing

Order Prints of Dr. Christy Sim’s Empowered Series: She Breathes Fire She Discovers Courage      I discovered the art of zentangle as a means to artistically draw our way to healing. It is a fun process and enough friends have asked about it, I collected the best online resources together in one place.  I…

Sexual Violence: Let’s Talk Facts (a guest post by Misty Campbell) 

Instead of hearing from me on the blog, today you get to read the words of my dear friend, Misty Campbell. Misty works as the Volunteer Coordinator for one of our agencies that work with survivors of sexual assault. She’s also my co-presenter this week in a webinar (for Kansas domestic violence & sexual assault…

A Litany for Women Who Suffer on Mother’s Day 

I know Mother’s Day is nothing more than an occasion for many women to feel intense grief. For others, this day might as well be a hashtag for antagonizing loss. And for yet other women, this is not a celebration at all, but instead a reminder of anger. And I want to say… I hear…

Review with Excerpts: Lundy Bancroft’s New Book

Lundy Bancroft‘s new book “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?” (Berkley Books, 2015) is a fantastic new, game-changing, tool for those of us who work with victims of domestic violence.  It is also an amazing resource for survivors to access and use individually. The book is divided into several parts. These include: How to…