Annesley Article: Survivors Know Best

Today my article for Annesley Writers went live. This month they are focusing on gender-based violence, including domestic violence.  They asked me to write this piece and I was thrilled to be a part of this project. Here’s a teaser. It was a chilly spring afternoon when I got a call from an unknown number….

What is Wrong with Conditions?

According to an article published by Slate this week, the prosecuting attorney in Honolulu created stipulations for victims of violence to receive services in the local shelter.  As of today, July 15, 2017, the article is available for review here. In this piece it states the following conditions must be met if a person desires…

Don’t Drink? How About Don’t Rape?

I published a new piece with Evangelicals for Social Action that deals with the harm done when we make suggestions on how women can protect themselves from rape. “Consider this thought experiment: A survivor of sexual assault—someone whose body was literally violated by another person with unwanted touch, was humiliated, couldn’t make the person stop,…

Hashtag #WhatToSay

 The last hashtag #StuffNotToSay was amazing! It was born from a creative group of friends and survivors were able to find language and images to describe the horrible things they heard when they disclosed their experience of violence. Before I knew it, I could barely keep track of posting all the amazing memes! It was…

Hashtag #StuffNotToSay

This week my friend Amy Hollingsworth (Author of “The Simple Faith of Mister Rogers” and co-author of “Runaway Radical”) posted a status that made me say “Can someone please turn this into a meme for me?” Which she did. With the message “your every wish.” I posted this to my professional Dr. Christy Sim Facebook…

What We Can Learn from the Christianity Today Article with Saeed

This article went live today and I encourage you all to read it. My purpose is two-fold. First, to analyze how Saeed’s answers to the interview questions give us a glimpse into how he might be abusive (and to understand abusers in general). And second, to investigate what happens when a big publication like Christianity…

False Reports of violence & assault are not as common as society believes

In light of several things going on in popular culture these days, I’ve had many requests for information on false allegations and false reporting when it comes to domestic violence and sexual assault. So I put together a research & resource list so folks can investigate for themselves and understand the issue. Bottom line? False…

Dr. Sim’s Resource List for the Neurobiology of Trauma: 

After my presentation at the Crime Victim’s Rights Conference (in a 90 minute session titled “Professionals Playing: Healing & Wholeness in the Midst of Vicarious Trauma”), I was asked for my resource list. A top 10 greatest neurobiology hits, I believe was the exact wording! If I was to create a works cited from all…

Polyvagal Theory: Understanding the Physical Body in Trauma

This week I wrote another explanation for my coworkers that might be helpful for others. Ever since I went to the National Sexual Assault Conference this past September, I had my attention tuned into this notion of Polyvagal Theory as it relates to trauma. Here is a tiny, 4-minute little video from Dr. Porges (through…

Bystander Intervention Theory

This research project was made public recently. You can see it on the PDF on this site (and then go to the bottom of the PDF and read more). I analyzed this for my coworkers this week and decided to share it with others. I appreciate this work because it integrates several of the leading…

The art of Zentangle: A Tool for Healing

Order Prints of Dr. Christy Sim’s Empowered Series: She Breathes Fire She Discovers Courage      I discovered the art of zentangle as a means to artistically draw our way to healing. It is a fun process and enough friends have asked about it, I collected the best online resources together in one place.  I…

Review with Excerpts: Lundy Bancroft’s New Book

Lundy Bancroft‘s new book “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?” (Berkley Books, 2015) is a fantastic new, game-changing, tool for those of us who work with victims of domestic violence.  It is also an amazing resource for survivors to access and use individually. The book is divided into several parts. These include: How to…